Dropping the Struggle

We’ve all heard the phrase “drop the struggle”, but what does it mean and how do we do it?

Our natural instinct is to try to control everything that happens in our lives.  Our brain is only looking to help us survive and that is its natural behaviour.  However, when things don’t go to plan, we resist, we fight against whatever life is presenting us with and we create stress, anxiety and other emotions that can feel very heavy in our heart.  Fear is a major contributor to this process, as we are not comfortable with not knowing what lies ahead in our future.  

Although it is a survival mechanism embedded in our brains, it only makes things worse for us, as the more we fear, the more anxiety we experience, the more stress we create and it becomes a vicious cycle that grows like a snowball unless we stop the process.

What do we do then? 

There is a grounding technique used often in ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) called “Dropping Anchor”.  Just like a boat would do in the harbour as it is caught in the middle of a storm.  This technique will help us come back to the present moment and be able to observe what is going on without being dragged by the storm.  Here is a link to a video that offers a simple guide on how to apply the technique. 

As we manage to come back to the present moment, we can practice some mindfulness exercises.  We can observe our thoughts patterns and catch the story we are making up in our minds.   By doing this, we would be able to keep some distance from the story and avoid getting hooked.

Following this, we can remember that live is happening FOR us, not TO us.  Anything that is going on in our lives, is giving us exactly what we need in order to grow and expand our consciousness.  It will help us align and move in the direction of our soul’s path.  We are deeply loved and supported. And so, we might start getting in touch with a sense of Trust.

As we begin to Trust, we release the need for control and so, we become more receptive and able to listen to our inner guide, which in turn will give us directions on how to deal with our current situation.

Of course, this is not something we achieve on the first go, but the more we practice, the quicker we can get from dropping anchor to trusting and allowing for the light to come through us and guide us on what action to take and the direction we need to move towards.

A sense of peace and relief will be achieved and we will be able to drop the struggle.


Please give this method a go and let me know how you go. Leave some comments below.

Perhaps you are able to achieve contacting the present moment only at first, but this is a great start.


Looking forward to hearing from you.


The Joke

On Christmas day, we decided to go to the beach.  Back in Colombia, where we come from, we celebrate on Christmas eve, so on Christmas day we rest.  So, the beach seemed like a fine idea.

We were aware that in Australia there are not many things operating on Christmas day, so we had a late and generous breakfast and were headed towards the beach.

We had a lovely time by the water.  The Sun was out and strong, so we found a shaded area where we could rest without being roasted by the heat.  We sat down and later took a little siesta that felt like heaven, as we were lulled by the sound of the waves breaking on the beach.

Hunger started to appear, our stomachs started to rumble, so we decided to adventure and find a place to eat.  As predicted, the cafes that were located by the water were all closed, so we decided to take a drive and see whether we could find food without having to wait for the drive back home.

We agreed we didn’t want to eat at one of the common fast food places, which of course was open. We kept driving a little more and suddenly we saw a place by the main street, which although it didn’t look as good as the cafes that were by the water, we thought could offer us more quality food than the fast food chain.  I wasn’t impressed with the menu, but thinking this was the best we would be able to find, we settled and decided to order some food.

After ordering, I had a bad feeling and decided to search for feedback about this place.  The reviews were not great, but we had already decided and waited for the food to arrive.

As per the reviews, the quality of the food was terrible.  There was more crumble than actual food, the fish didn’t feel fresh, the mixture was too salty and so on.  We did eat what we could, satisfying our immediate need for food, but were left with a terrible after taste and a disgusted sensation after having eaten garbage, bad quality food.

We got back into the car, getting ready to head back home.  As we were looking for the way to return to the main road, we had to go around the corner.  To our surprise, there, on the same block we had just settled for disgusting food, there were about 5 good quality restaurants next to each other.  It totally felt like a big joke. If only we had waited one more minute, we would have found all these beautiful restaurants and would have had amazing food.

This left me thinking on how many times we do this in life.  Not necessarily with food and with such short lasting consequences as the ones from our experience, but with much more important events in our life.  Instead of waiting a little more for the job, the relationship, the friend, the house that we would really like, we settle for whatever we find on the road, so we are not left alone, or without the pay and so on.

Be clear about what you want in your life and do not settle for less. What you want may just be around the corner.

Are you settling for less than you deserve?

Rainbow Bridge

We are coming to the end of 2020. As I have mentioned in some of my previous posts, this has been a year that required a lot of shaking, removing the old, cleansing the ground to make room for the new.

Astrologically, the year started with a double planetary conjunction and was followed by 3 triple planetary conjunctions that took place throughout the year. At some point, there were 10 celestial bodies going in retrograde and numerologically there have been quite a few interesting and very powerful dates.  All this, has had an effect on everyone of us at different levels, according to where we are at in terms of our personal life cycles and our individual level of awareness.

In Australia, the year started with an intense fire season that began at the back end of 2019, which clearly sent a message of renewal and rebirth. Apart from other natural disasters, the world has seen a pandemic that has changed the way we live our lives.  It has asked us to re-evaluate our values, what truly matters for us and what we stand for.   It has helped us recognise the importance of human connections, it has brought to the light some of our deep seated fears, our shadows, and overall has shaken us, so we can take a stocktake and move forward in a new way.

2021 is a progression of what happened this year, helping us recognise our gifts and put them into use to move up into the next level.

But before that, we have this month to look forward to.  With Christmas upon us, people are starting to prepare for the festive season, and depending where in the world you live, this will take a different shape to that of previous years.  In Australia we are quite fortunate and perhaps our celebrations can go ahead as usual, but for so many people around the globe, this is not the case.  Christmas will have to be celebrated with so many restrictions and amongst so much uncertainty and fear.

However, for some, the real celebration is about what is taking place on the 21st of December: “The Magic Box activation at Uluru”.  This is related to a prophecy that says that crystals from the Pleiades that were placed inside Uluru are ready to be activated on the solstice on December 21st.  There is a caveat though, there has to be a certain amount of people with pure hearts connecting, so on that day, at 9:01 pm NT time, 9:05 pm AEST, please send love and divine energy to the site.  Also, do the work you’ve been asked to do in these recent times.  Meditate often and be mindful of any processes taken place within, so you can clear the old fears and programs you no longer need.

Many people are preparing meditation gatherings on that day and some have been summoned to actually go to Uluru.

It is said that upon the activation of these crystals, the vibration of the planet will raise considerably and it will help cleansing the Earth, and all who are able to tune in will live at this higher vibration.

This prophecy has been only known to the Aboriginal tribe of the Uluru country and they have been working and doing ceremonies for 9 years already.

This rise in vibration will help us connect to so many gifts that we haven’t recognised until this point in time, which ties in with what 2021 has in store for us.  Being a year 5, we will be invited to “express” to the world who we truly are.

So, we are currently moving on a rainbow bridge that is taking us across from the old into the new.  It is a highly vibrational bridge that can only be walked if we decide to tune in and trust.

How are you feeling?  Have you had to leave anything behind?

Are you keeping a spiritual practice that is helping you balance any emotional fluctuations?

Tell us how you are doing.  We would love to know if you are sensing these changes.

Contractions of the Universe

As any mother who has delivered their babies naturally would understand very clearly, when the time comes, we need to wait for the contractions in order to push.  Anything else is futile; we can exhaust ourselves pushing in between and nothing will happen.  It’s only when the contraction comes that we are able to use our energy effectively to push the baby out of the birth canal and then into the world.

In a similar way, we need to wait for the signals of the Universe, God, the Creative force, so we can move ahead with “our ideas”, change direction, or birth our creative projects into the world.  Sometimes, we push and push at the wrong time, as our human mind wants to see things happening and feels confused and in fear when there is a period of stagnation.  We exhaust ourselves and end up frustrated and may give up.

We also need to tune in and understand whether those ideas are the ones that our Soul wants to manifest as inspired by Spirit or we are just trying to create what our logical mind believes could be beneficial. This takes a bit of awareness.

Are we flowing through life, or are we resisting life?  Just like a surfer waiting for the right wave, it would serve us well to wait and ride with the wave, rather than forcing events to take place. When we are flowing with the energy, the right person crosses our path, the ideas flow naturally, we visit the right places at the right time, and lots of synchronicities occur to support us in our process.

We are living a unique time in history where we are given opportunities to grow and expand our consciousness tenfold.  How are you using this energy? Where are you directing your attention?  Are you listening within or is your mind taking over? Take a moment to ponder as it might be worth your time.

What to do, then?

This is my suggestion:

1. Stop. Go to a place close to nature if possible, as nature supports us connecting to our inner self.  It amplifies the signal, if you will. Take a moment to breath deeply.  Bring your body to a relaxed state.

2. Listen to your body. Scan your body and see whether there is one part that wants to call your attention and investigate. See if there is a place where you feel discomfort or whether you can recognise any emotions surging. If so, just like a curious scientist, observe what is causing the sensation. (eg. If you are feeling anxious, what is underneath the anxiety). Do not judge it, just observe it and see whether you can understand what it is trying to say. Do not do this with your mind. Truly feel into your sensations, your emotions and see if there are any images, ideas, words that come to you. This process make take a little while. Do not rush it.

3. Trust what you get.  By now, you would have gained a new understanding. You will get a sense of the next step.  Perhaps it is just to wait a little longer, perhaps you have realised that you have been resisting what life is presenting you. Perhaps your ideas come from fear and this is why you are feeling anxious. Whatever it is you find, trust and follow the message.

Sometimes, what we are asked to do scare us. Trust that you will be given the way if this is what you are meant to do. 

I invite you to give this a go and let me know if this exercise helped.

Am I grieving?

Grief can occur when we lose something we hold valuable in our lives.  It could be the loss of a loved one, a pet, a job, or any situation that threatens our overall stability.  

The Kubler-Ross Model postulates we go through 5 stages when we experience grief: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally, acceptance.  The time taken on each stage varies according to the individual. Also, some people visit some stages more than once and they are not linear; meaning that the way people grief can be different.  In addition to this, some people experience something called “cumulative grief”, which occurs when we go through a series of events causing grief, without resolving the previous crisis.

Usually, when reaching the ‘Acceptance” stage, we are at the end of the process and soon we will be ready to live our lives more freely.  We discussed “Acceptance and Allowing” on our previous post. However, I thought it is important to understand where we are in the process, if we haven’t managed to get to that stage.  More importantly, to identify whether we are grieving or not and if so, what we are grieving.

During this Pandemic, many people are experiencing grief, but are not aware of this, thus not being able to address it effectively.

As mentioned before, we all grief differently, but there are some general signs that can help us identify whether we are experiencing grief or not. The symptoms will depend on what stage we are at, but in general these are: shock or numbness, or even trying to deny what is going on, anger, frustration or hopelessness, sadness, or we continuously judge ourselves for what we “should have done” or what we “should do” or for why we are not doing it. 

In general terms, we are able to deal with grief on our own. However, sometimes we can get stuck or immobilised by the emotions and need to ask for help.  It might be recommended to consult your GP and/or arrange some counselling sessions when experiencing an increased level of anxiety, sadness that doesn’t go away (we possibly cry often), lack of motivation, sleep patterns are disrupted, feeling continuously overwhelmed and not being able to move on with life.

If you identify with any of the signs described above, you probably are now able to determine what is going on for you and make decisions on what to do next.  By acknowledging where we are at, moving into acceptance would be easier. Once we reach that stage, we can make new plans and get on with life as it is.

“When you deeply accept this moment as it is, no matter what form it takes, you are still, you are at peace”. Eckhart Tolle

Acceptance and Allowing

On my last article, we discussed “Coping with the current environment”.  We looked at the Numerology patterns and provided some recommendations on tools that can alleviate fear and anxiety and help regain peace and calm.
 
Continuing on this theme, I would like to focus on a very important topic: Acceptance and Allowing the present moment.
 
Some of you know I am a Counsellor and I am very passionate about a type of therapy called ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy).  The reason I am so passionate about it, is because it aims to help people contact the present moment, accept and allow whatever circumstances are in their lives and from that space, act in accordance to their values.  This means that no matter what the current situation is, as they accept it and allow space for that in their lives, they are able to take action freely. They are able to flow easier with whatever life puts in front of them.  This is a fabulous tool!
 
Today, we are facing circumstances that are beyond our control. There is a lot more perceived uncertainty, and in addition to that, for those of you who are sensitive, the massive changes taking place in the unseen world, may be taking a toll in your physical body.  You may be feeling tired, low in energy and not being able to complete your required tasks, which may be adding to the frustration of having your life disrupted and having to walk on uncharted territory with limited tools.
 
 What is acceptance? According to some dictionaries, acceptance is a “process”. It is the process of embracing what is received.  It is also defined as a “state”.  We know that acceptance doesn’t just happen. We first need to make a decision. So, in order for it to happen, you need to make the decision to accept what is happening right now. As you make that decision, you start allowing this situation in your life and immediately a need for understanding where you are standing and what that means, arises. You will then want to find your bearings and ground yourself, in order to know what action to take and in what direction to move.  At this point, it is very important to understand what your values are, so any action you take goes inline with what matters to you in life.
 
My invitation is then to clarify your values, to really know what you stand for in life and after making the decision to accept where you are standing, decide what actions can be taken right now, without fighting or resisting.
 
As Eckhart Tolle says: “whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists”.
 
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Coping with the current environment…what to do?

Following from my previous article about the energy of the 4/4/4 that opened a portal to support us on the elevation of our consciousness, I would like to speak a bit more about this and how it looks on the practical day to day and physical world. Also, provide some ideas on how to cope and thrive.
 
It was great to observe how the information provided by the numerological cycles is consistent to what is given to us by analysing the Astrological events, as well as the information provided by many who are channeling and connecting to Higher Self and pure entities who are supporting this process for us.  We are experiencing an amazing time for humanity, although this is a process and will take a while for many to appreciate.
 
In the visible physical world, we are going through very difficult times.  There is lots of uncertainty, massive levels of fear and anxiety, people sick, many are dying, people losing their sources of income and our day to day lives have been disturbed, interrupted, put on halt. So, how are these two things related and what to do next?
 
If you think of a construction site, where a new structure is to be built, the first step is to remove the old.  The old structures have to be removed and cleaned, before the new foundations can be laid and the new structure be built upon them.  In the beginning, there is lots of chaos, destruction and debris.  This has to be cleaned and only then, a new building can be erected in place.
 
Here is where we are right now. We are in the part where the removal of the old is necessary.  Life couldn’t continue as it was. A very radical change was necessary.
 
The dust hasn’t settled, so it is hard to see very far.  What do you have?  You have yourself and your inner wisdom.  Do not fear to be with yourself for a while and reconnect to who you truly are.  What do you stand for? What are your values? What matters to you most? What is your essence? What can go and what needs to stay?  Allow the stillness that is necessary to listen within and be honest with yourself.
 
Once you gain some clarity on these essential parts of your being, you are ready to make some decisions.
 
As said before, life had to change, so do not expect that a pause button will be released and then you will continue your life as it was before. Some adjustments will be needed. Just like when sailing and the wind changes, we can’t keep the steering wheel and the sails in the same position.  We need to adjust the sails and steer in a new direction.
 
With the newly acquired clarity, create new routines, make changes in your household, in the way your relate to others and start preparing for the new way of living.  Do you need to make changes in the way you work, where you live and so on? Start taking steps in that direction.
 
There is no need to rush, take your time and wait until you can see beyond the fear.
 
Some commonly recommended practical steps to support you on regaining peace and calm:
 
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2. Connect with others: Although we can’t physically visit or gather with others at the moment, you can use digital technology to connect. You can either text, do a video conference and so on.  Get in touch with your loved ones and smile.  Do not stay alone. Even if you are on your own in isolation, you can connect with your friends and family.
 
3. Exercise: Move in one way or another. Exercise helps releasing endorphis in the body (the happy hormone), which at the same time, supports you on reducing the cortisol levels in the body.  
 
4. Do things that are fun for you: The list of available activities is restricted at the moment, but you can still listen to music, sing, dance, watch comedies, paint, read, do some crafts, cook, etc.  Remember what are those things that bring you joy and include them in your daily routine (the new one you are creating).
 
5. Disconnect from your phone and don’t watch news all day long: Being on the phone all day long and watching the news continuously raises our levels of anxiety and hopelessness. Limit your daily use and choose one trusted source of news to watch at a specific time.  This will help enourmously.
 
I would like to hear any extra tips you can share with us. Get in touch!

I asked for help, so I didn’t drown

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This day started very well.  We stayed at a friend’s place, we had a lovely night and woke up feeling very grateful about life.  We were all in a great mood, had a lovely breakfast and then walked to the beach, which was located a couple of blocks away from the place we were staying at.

As we arrived at the beach, we noticed that the swimming area allocated by the Life Guards and indicated by the flags, as is the the usual practice in Australia, was very narrow. “Currents must be strong today”, I thought.

The Sun was out on a very warm summer day, so my husband and I decided to go in for a swim.  I’m usually very careful and was checking that we were getting in the water within the allocated area.  The waves were quite strong and my husband noticed they become more gentle deeper in the water, so suggested we walked a little further in to avoid been constantly slapped by the waves.  I agreed.

As we continued moving in, I noticed that there were holes in the sandy floor.  This brought a memory from childhood where my dad said to me to be careful if there holes in the sand as it was an indication of wild conditions in the water.  My husband wanted to continue moving in, so I ignored this thought and played along by swimming under the waves as they broke and so on.

There was a point when we decided to get out of the water, so we started to move towards the beach.  However, the strong current was pulling us in. The waves were very frequent, so I wasn’t having enough time to breathe between waves and I wasn’t making any progress. My husband was holding my hand, but neither of us were capable of getting out.  I realised we were in trouble.

As soon as I realised I wasn’t going to be able to get out on my own, I raised my hand to ask for help.  Fortunately, the Life Guards were already watching us and ready to take action.  Immediately, a few of them came in the water and offered a flotation device they used to pull us out.  The operation was quite quick and although I managed to swallow a bit of water, I came out feeling well and recovered almost instantly.

When I got back to where my friends were waiting for us, totally unaware of the drama we had just gone through, we sat down on a towel feeling grateful for being safe and for the quick action of the Life Guards.  I also noticed that on this day, they were all out ready for action, rather than the usual relaxed attitude I had observed on previous visits to this beach, which was another sign of the wild conditions on the day.

I am normally very confident in the water. Throughout my life, I have practiced a few water sports and nothing like this had happened to me in the 19 years I have been living in Australia, so a part of me was confused and perhaps disappointed.

Upon reflection of the events of the day, I realised the following:

I ignored the warning signs

As mentioned before, I had noticed the conditions were different this day.  A very narrow swimming area, the holes in the sandy floor and ignored behaviour of the Life Guards.  My gut had told me not to continue going in the water, but as I was with my husband, I thought I was being over cautious.

How many times have we ignored the warning signs and got ourselves into destructive, dangerous or very inconvenient experiences?

I was reminded this day, we should never ignore the warning signs.

I asked for help quickly

Despite the disappointment of my inability of getting out of the water on my own, as soon as I realised I was in trouble, I asked for help. I didn’t continue to struggle to satisfy my ego.  Should I have continued to trying to get out on my own, perhaps there would have been a very different result and no one to write about it.

I asked for help, so experienced, trained people, with the appropriate equipment were able to rescue me effectively and with no regrettable or negative consequences.

How many times, while struggling with life situations, we have chosen to try “getting out” on our own, instead of asking for help, and continued to sink into a deep hole hard to get out of?

It’s not like we can’t deal with life situations on our own, but if struggling, it is important to recognise and discern when we need to ask for help and ask in time.  We can ask someone we trust, a family member or a professional, according to the circumstances.

Do not wait until you drown to ask for help. It might be too late!

My friends didn’t notice I was struggling

When we returned to the beach, our friends were surprised to see we were the ones rescued by the Life Guards.  Although we were swimming close to the shore and our friends were sitting near the Life Guards, they hadn’t noticed we were in trouble.

So, that helped me realise that unless we speak, or circumstances are quite evident, our friends or people surrounding us won’t know we are struggling. Please reach out if you are in trouble!


Have you had a similar experience? I welcome you to share it here to help others in similar circumstances.

Leave your comments below!

Time for Re-evaluation

At this point, we would all have heard about the situation in the Amazon jungle in Brazil, as well as other difficult events “exploding” in the world.

It seems like it is time to re-evaluate the way we are doing things and find alternatives.  It is not a gentle energy; action needs to be taken NOW.

We are in August, which is the month 8.  8 is about re-evaluation, discrimination. 2019 is a year 12 (2+0+1+9=12) and 8+12=20, which indicates gestation.  The gestation of a new time.  The gestation of a new way of being, which is required for us to move to the next step in consciousness.  We need to take action.  The situation can’t wait.

In the case of the Amazon jungle burning, a rainforest often referred as the lungs of the world as it produces approximately 20% of the oxygen of planet Earth, an important ecosystem with amazing biodiversity and Sacred land to many indigenous tribes, calls to an urgent worldwide movement to make changes if we want to survive.  Are we going to keep behaving for immediate self pleasure, or are we going to start looking at what benefits us all as a group?

This is in fact, the next path in evolution as we move from being selfish to becoming selfless.

Soluntra King (https://www.evenstarcreations.com/) gives us a way of looking at these situations from a higher perspective and instead of acting from fear, we can move from love, so our actions are guided by the light, rather than clouded by emotion.

I invite you to reflect and take steps in your own life.  We are not all meant to participate on street protests, or donate money to reconstruct what has been destroyed, but we can all make changes that will benefit the whole.  Change is in everyone’s hands.

My turn to be an Angel

Recently, my mother and I went on a beautiful holiday together. As she has limited mobility, we requested Special Services, so she could be wheeled through the Airports and taken to the door of each of the planes.

At some Airports, they put you in a special room, where you wait for the appropriate staff to come and take you to the corresponding gate on time for your plane to board.

While we were waiting in the Special Services room at the Heathrow Airport in London, I had to take a few walks to the shops and run some errands before we were taken to the gate.

As I returned from one of my walks and talked to my mother confirming I had successfully completed the task at hand, a lady approached me and started speaking to me in Spanish.

This lady explained to me that her plane had been delayed a few hours and she had been there since early hours in the morning.  She wasn’t prepared for this and she didn’t speak English.  For this reason, she hadn’t been able to eat or drink anything, as she hadn’t been able to communicate to anyone or purchase anything from the Vending Machines. She was starving and confused and when she saw me and realised I could speak Spanish, asked for help.

I talked to the Manager of the room to check the status of her Flight and explain her situation.  Also, I bought her a drink and explained other things she needed at that moment to get her through the next step.  I invited her to sit with us until it was time for us to leave and reassured her everything was in order and they knew about her and where to take her.

She then proceeded to say: “You are my Angel”. As I looked back at her in surprise because of her words, she said to me. “I was desperate and didn’t know what to do.  I made a prayer and asked God for help and at that precise moment you came in through the door! You are my Angel”.

I was moved by this and realised how a simple act of kindness can mean the world to someone else.

That day was my turn to be an Angel.  Could today be yours?