There are 7.7 billion people on planet Earth and yet, we expect people to see things in the same way we do. There are many conflicts, at a big or lower scale, caused by our belief that our way of seeing things is the correct one and anyone seeing anything different must be out of their minds. We want to be right and want to make sure others agree to this.
We all have very different experiences from the moment we are born. Even siblings experience their parents, school, friendships very differently from one another. As we grow up, we create belief systems according to those experiences, according to our culture, our faith and so on. So, it is very ludicrous to expect that we could and should all see things in the same way.
Every situation we live, contributes towards helping us build the qualities we need to express our purpose; the teacher at school, the boyfriend that didn’t appreciate us, the mother who was overprotective, the friend that was always there for us, etc.
There is a phrase attributed to the Talmudic tradition that says: “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are”. We shape the world according to our experiences, thus naturally resulting on us creating concepts of how things should or shouldn’t be.
In the beginnings of our personal evolutionary path, we would always want to be right and treat anyone with a different perspective as an “idiot”, as an “ignorant”, and so on.
As we start to grow, we are able to understand that we are all different, even when we have certain affinities. Lee Carroll, Kryon’s channeller, told a story about an exercise he applied at one of his lessons to illustrate this. He gave people a piece of paper and asked them to secretly write what political party they were associated with or supported. When they revealed the percentages of people on each party, people were surprised to see how, even when they all had in common this type of spiritual curiosity and openness, they could differ so much on other aspects, such as their political views.
It is also important to understand that each of us is travelling through a journey and those views of the world will give us exactly the experiences we need to grow into our next step in the evolution of our consciousness, or to align to our purpose.
Given this, it is neither important to convince anyone of our ideas, nor to justify ourselves for our choices, or treat others as if they couldn’t think for themselves just because they don’t think like us.
We are facing a very strong difference in opinions on how things should be done at the moment. Before you rush to judge others for their position and opinions, consider that none of us has the absolute truth and that we must respect and honour each others’ paths.
We don’t know anything about other people’s journey and so although it is ok to voice our ideas and argue our opinions, it is not for us to take anything personal, create conflict and division.
Easier said than done? Yes, this is true.
Pythagoras required for his mystical school apprentices to be silent in the presence of an elder for a period of 2 years. After this time, he would encourage them to voice their opinions with each other without engaging in emotional activity. This was a process in which they would cleanse their emotional body, so it wouldn’t cloud their words and actions.
Whilst we can’t be in silence for 2 years in the modern world and continue to operate in it, we can become conscious of our own reactions and start examining our behaviour and the egoic need to be right.
A Course in Miracles asks: “Would you rather be right or happy?”. What is your answer!
Leave me a comment below! I would like to hear your ideas about the topic.
Thank you! I prefer to be happy, to think out of the box and respect those who think different as we are in a unique evolutionary path. Diversity makes life richer.
I absolutly agree. We are unique in this universe.
Thank you very much for sharing this article. In truth, we are used to seeing with the glasses we wear, and we do not see things as they really are, but from our perspectives, beliefs, preferences, as you say, and from there we dictate and judge. Thank you for reminding us that we all carry different luggage on this journey called life. And yes, I decide to be Happy!
Just saw this blog. Nicely said . I have been thinking this and confirm what I have been thinking. We all have our personal opinions and at times we as individuals believe that we are right and get upset when people disagree. When we
come from a place of love, we acknowledge the other person point of view, we empathise with each other and encourage harmony. We realise that we do not know all the answers . Coming to this realisation we connect and help each other.